January 2009
Human Connections Counseling Services Newsletter from Psychotherapist Mark Felber, M.S.

Mark Felber, M.S.
Human Connections
Counseling Services

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Mark Felber specializes in couples/marriage counseling and addictive behaviors. He also works with individuals who are experiencing grief, anger, and unresolved trauma issues. Other issues that often affect individuals such as drug abuse and codependency are also addressed in therapy.

Mr. Felber brings empathy and years of training in therapeutic techniques to his practice. His therapy sessions facilitate personal growth, heal childhood wounds, and address present difficulties.

  • Licensed Professional Counselor
  • Licensed Chemical Dependency Counselor
  • Board Certified Professional Counselor
  • Board Certified Practitioner of Psychodrama,
    Sociometry, and Group Psychotherapy
  • Voice Dialogue Facilitator
  • Relapse Prevention Therapist
  • Certified Solution-Focused Therapist
  • Certified Imago Relationship Therapist
  • Level II Advanced EMDR Trauma Resolution Facilitator
  • Level II Advanced Grief Counseling Facilitator
  • Level II Certified Experiential Therapist
  • Certified Anger Resolution Therapist
  • Certified Associate of Logotherapy

Contact Mark today for a complimentary session to explore your issues.

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As you ponder making New Year's Resolutions for the coming year, consider the thoughts of Michael Josephson who invites us to reflect on what really matters. "Ready or not, some day it will all come to an end. There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days. All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten, will pass to someone else. Your wealth, fame, and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance. It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed. Your grudges, resentments, frustrations, and jealousies will finally disappear. So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans and to-do lists will expire. The wins and losses that seemed important will fade away. It won't matter where you came from or what side of the tracks you lived on at the end. It won’t matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant. Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant. So what will matter? How will the value of your days be measured?

What will matter is not what you bought but what you built, not what you got but what you gave. What will matter is not your success but your significance. What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught. What will matter, is every act of integrity, compassion, courage, or sacrifice that enriched, empowered, or encouraged others to emulate your example. What will matter is not your competence but your character. What will matter is not how many people you know, but how many will feel a lasting loss when you are gone. What will matter is not your memories but the memories of those who loved you. What will matter is how you will be remembered, by whom and for what. Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident. It's not a matter of circumstance but of choice. As we enter the holiday season and ring in the New Year with its resolutions...choose to live a life that matters, and celebrate those that matter to you."

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Eleven seminarsDo You Have the People-Pleasing Syndrome?

Pleasing other people--who could find fault with that? Isn't it a good thing to consider the needs of others, to be gracious, to be nice? By all means! But for many, the desire to please becomes an addictive need to please others, even at the expense of their own health and happiness. It takes a toll on health, relationships and quality of life, and it drowns out the inner voice that may be trying to protect us from overdoing it.
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Are You Taking Care or Caretaking?

Although composed of the same two words, taking care and caretaking are vastly different in practice. Taking care is healthy caregiving--whether for children, spouses, friends or parents--that includes drawing appropriate boundaries, taking your own needs into consideration and knowing when to say no. Caretaking, on the other hand, is about rescuing, constantly placing others’ needs before your own and taking inappropriate responsibility for others’ emotions and actions. Go to full story.

Today's Quote
"I think a hero is an ordinary individual who finds strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles."
~Christopher Reeve


2009 Events

Tuesday, January 20
The Meadows Dallas Area Free Lecture Series Presents: Recovering From Your Traumatic Childhood: Breaking The Cycle Of Pain
Time: 7:00pm - 8:30pm
Location: Cochran Chapel Union Methodist Church, Meaders Hall, 9027 Midway Road at Northwest Highway, Dallas, Texas 75209
Cost: Free
Credit: Continuing Education Credits offered: 1.5 hours
Information: For more information contact Betty Ewing Dicken at 972-612-7443

For millions of children, traumatic events are everyday occurrences that insidiously carve deep scars into their hearts. The people they trust behave in ways that cause deep pain. Then, unknowingly, those children become adults who do the same thing. But there are ways to break the cycle for future generations.

Ten Reasons You Should Attend This Seminar
You will learn:

  • The difference between “single event” and “chronic trauma”
  • How childhood injuries wound the self in many ways
  • How childhood traumas make relationships difficult
  • How unconscious parents use their children as “poison containers”
  • Why adults repeat the way they were parented
  • How parents don’t know where they end and their child begins
  • What happens to children when their parents live through them
  • How parents wound their children just as they have been wounded
  • How to break the cycle of abuse before it’s too late

Looking for an enlightening speaker? Mark Felber offers presentations on a variety of topics for your community or religious group's meetings. Find out how.

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