Joyce Persily, C.E.C.
Founder,
Progressive Life Coaching

516-239-8993
Email Joyce
or visit her website:
www.progressivelifecoach.com

Joyce Persily is a Certified Empowerment Coach. Trained at IPEC, Joyce is among a small population of coaches recognized by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). ICF maintains the highest standards and ethical guidelines of professional coaches. Joyce has lectured at Pace University, published numerous articles, and has appeared on Life Coach TV.

Joyce coaches adults who are seeking to attain a more desirable life by helping her clients:

• Identify their goals
• Recognize and work through
  fear barriers
• Create an action plan
• Step outside their comfort zone to reach their full potential

Coaching Services

• Personal Coaching
• Empty Nest Coaching
• Workshops & Seminars
• Motivational Speaking

For a complimentary telephone consultation to understand how the coaching experience will benefit you please email Joyce or call her at 516-239-8993.

In life there are things we can control and things we can't. It is our choice how we respond to such events. The following article is about recognizing if you are giving away your personal power and living your life as a victim. If you recognize yourself in this article, there are many ways to learn how to "take charge" of your life. If you would like some help, please contact Joyce.

Today's Quote
"They say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself."
~Andy Warhol

Recognizing Victimhood
When we operate from a victim mentality, we give the power to create our own life to someone else, and then we moan about how controlling the other is. To avoid taking responsibility, we create (and protect at all costs!) the dangerous illusion that we are always right. We blame others for our circumstances and remain stuck in a silent "poor me" that keeps us small. 

This is not to say that we can always control what happens to us. Some people's behavior is abusive. Hurricanes or other natural disasters occur. The company downsizes. We can, however, always control how we respond. Read full story here.

Are You Playing the Blame Game?
When things go wrong, blame is an easy way of taking the spotlight off ourselves and shining it on others. From the first excuse we used as a child, shifting blame often becomes an all-purpose gadget in our toolbox of defenses, so handy we often reach for it without even thinking. Blame helps maintain our self-image and preserve our dignity, it's a convenient form of procrastination, it's less painful than blaming ourselves, and it can be a potent psychological weapon. Basically, it lets us off the hook. Take this quiz to see whether you're playing the "Blame Game." Go to quiz.

Announcements
Our mind controls our thoughts which control our actions. Join me on October 15th, at the Diet Center in Manhattan, and learn how to program your mind to achieve the success in your life that you've always dreamed of. This free seminar is open to the public. Please contact Joyce for further information.

Relevant Reading
Smart Choices: A Practical Guide to Making Better Decisions, by John S. Hammond, Ralph L. Keeney and Howard Raiffa

Six Months Off: How to Plan, Negotiate, and Take the Break You Need Without Burning Bridges or Going Broke, by Hope Dlugozima, James Scott and David Sharp