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February 10, 2015
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Valentine's Day is the perfect time to say "I love you." Even if you haven't said it for awhile, please do so on this special day!

When you send that message, don't forget that, from the receiver's perspective, your words, tone of voice, body language and actions all have to work together. The saying, "Words are cheap, action speaks," is never more true than when applied to "I love you."

This month's feature article Top 10 Actions That Say "I Love You" applies to any close relationships. How about making it a habit to take some small steps with someone you care about now? Applying these actions consistently may change things around.

Love, Joy, Peace to You!
Featured Article
Top 10 Actions That Say "I Love You"

The saying, "Words are cheap, action speaks," is never more true than when applied to "I love you." Whether spoken to a romantic partner, your children or other family members, if the actions aren't there to back up the loving words, it all means nothing. Below are 10 of the best ways to say "I love you" in your actions. But there are thousands more. See how creative you can get in coming up with your own ideas.

1. Greet your loved ones with a big smile, a hug and a kiss.

2. Really listen to what your loved ones are saying; give them your undivided and undistracted attention.

3. Support each other through tough times.

4. Do simple (even random) acts of kindness, such as massaging shoulders or feet, cooking a favorite meal, running a bath.

5. Spend one-on-one time with your loved ones, with no particular agenda.

6. Commit to truly accepting each other's faults.

7. Come home on time. Sober. If you have to be late, call (or text) to let them know!

8. Be impeccable with your word. If you say you'll do something, do it, and by the time you said you'd do it.

9. Take responsibility for your part in any conflict, and then look at how you can do better next time. Step out of the blame game.

10. Share yourself and what lives deeply inside of you. This is a precious gift and conveys trust and security.

"If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends." (1 Corinthians 13:1-8a ESV)

Author's content used with permission, © Claire Communications

Valentine's Day Drawing

Want to give your spouse a surprised gift? To celebrate Valentine's Day, I am offering a special drawing where one couple will receive a 50-minute face-to-face confidential consultation at no charge at my Saratoga or Fremont office. To enter into the drawing, please e-mail by 11:59 p.m. on 2/13/15 (Friday). Keep it a surprise to your better half for now. I will notify the winner before 9 a.m. on Valentine's Day!

Upcoming Workshops presented by Winnis:

• 2/21/2015 (Sat), 7-9 PM, "Developing EQ" (in Cantonese) at Silicon Valley Alliance Church, 10 Dempsey Road, Milpitas, CA 95035.

• 3/7/2015 (Sat), 2:15-3:30 PM, "Dealing with Feelings" and 3:45-5 PM, "Help! Nobody is Listening" (in Cantonese) at 2015 BASS Convention, Castro Valley, CA 94546. Check it out here.

• 3/14/2015 (Sat) 10 AM to Noon, "Communicating with Your ABC Children and Teenagers" (in Mandarin) at San Ramon Valley United Methodist Church, 902 Danville Blvd, Alamo, CA 94507. This event is sponsored by NAMI-Contra Costa County.
Winnis Chiang Winnis Chiang is Founder of Parenting ABC, an organization dedicated to training and coaching Chinese Christian parents from around the world to make a difference in the lives of children, youth, and young adults. Her passion is fueled by the new life she received when she found Christ in 1989 after her marriage and parenting were no longer working. She specializes in helping Mandarin and Cantonese speaking parents to get along with, enjoy, and influence their American Born Chinese children.

Winnis is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in California. She holds a M.A. degree in Marriage, Family and Child Counseling from Western Seminary and a B.Sc. degree in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science from U.C. Berkeley. Her former careers include being a software engineer, development department manager, stay-at-home mom, counselor of kids and teens at public schools, and children's minister.

Winnis and her husband (now a pastor) have been married since 1975 after only three months of dating. They enjoy their son, daughter-in-law, and three grandchildren!

Winnis Chiang, M.A., LMFT


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