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December 22, 2015
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Hello,

How is it possible to experience Love, Joy, Peace and Hope when bad things are happening?

For some of us, it is by believing in Jesus Christ, the Lord of lords and King of kings. He came from Heaven to earth to save us from our sins and make "God with Us" a reality!

"For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace." (Isaiah 9:6)

May the feature article Handling Adversity: You're Stronger Than You Thought remind you who you are in Christ.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
Winnis
Featured Article
Handling Adversity: You're Stronger Than You Thought

Catastrophic events like 9/11 and the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina can knock us to our knees. But personal adversities can pack an equally powerful punch. Our spouse is diagnosed with cancer, our son has a mental breakdown, we lose our home. Often these events seem to come out of nowhere and feel completely unmanageable as we struggle to regain our footing and any semblance of "normal."

But, like great trees, humans can grow stronger when exposed to powerful winds. That is easy to say, we may think, as we recall those who did not grow stronger but instead broke in the wind. How do we increase our inner strength and flexibility so that we not only survive the adversity but thrive? Here are several strategies that can help.

Take responsibility. Look at your role in the situation. Was the event, in fact, predictable? You may have had more control over the situation than you realized. At the same time, don't take more responsibility than is warranted. If your daughter develops a brain tumor it's not because you did something wrong. Be honest, but don't point fingers, not even at yourself.

Be optimistic and think creatively. Trust that there's a solution to every problem and let your mind soar. Approach the problem from new and different directions. Perhaps rather than losing your home, you could find a housemate whose rent would make the difference between paying the mortgage or not.

Have courage and speak up. Courage is taking action despite the fear you feel. If someone isn't taking you seriously, speak up. Be your own advocate. Tell that person what you want and need. Don't assume he or she "should know."

Take the long view. Recount other times when you have overcome challenges. How did you do it? Who or what helped you? Who or what can help you this time?

Maintain a sense of humor. There's truth in the adage: "Laughter is the best medicine." Even in the darkest of times, laughter can help ease the pain.

Get support. No one can handle everything alone. When you get that overwhelmed feeling—or even before—reach out. Ask for help. Next time, ask for it sooner. You'll be amazed by how much better you feel.

Don't quit. Persistence may be the greatest human quality that helps us overcome adversity. Draw inspiration from the great heroes of the world and the Bible—Nelson Mandela, Harriet Tubman, Mahatma Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Joseph, Moses, Paul—people who persisted despite the odds. Remember, you are your own best ally. And you're stronger and more resilient than you thought.

The Apostle Paul shared his secret from his experience as a follower of Christ, "But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed." (2 Corinthians 4:7-9)

Author's content used with permission, © Claire Communications

Real Life Story
Giving Thanks Face Down

In August 2007, our only son got married. That completed a huge life event for my husband James and me. In early September, we planned to join a "Discipleship Training" mission trip to Germany and the United Kingdom during the holidays of Christmas and New Year. A week or so after purchasing our tickets, James noticed something wrong with his left eye... One doctor after another, he was diagnosed to have a "macular hole" in his retina. We were told that the chance to save his central vision is to go through a procedure called vitrectomy.

"After we remove your vitreous sack and replace it with a gas bubble, you have to keep your face down. With the gas bubble pressing gently against the retina wall, hopefully new cells will grow to fill the tiny hole naturally... It will take six to eight weeks. Until then, you cannot fly... By the way, the sooner the operation the better."

As it turned out, the earliest available date for surgery is exactly six weeks before we planned to fly to Germany.

Could we make it? Could James keep his vision? Read our "God with Us" story in Chinese HERE.
about
Winnis Chiang Winnis Chiang is Founder of Parenting ABC, an organization dedicated to training and coaching Chinese Christian parents from around the world to make a difference in the lives of children, youth, and young adults. Her passion is fueled by the new life she received when she found Christ in 1989 after her marriage and parenting were no longer working. She specializes in helping Mandarin and Cantonese speaking parents to get along with, enjoy, and influence their American Born Chinese children.

Winnis is also a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in California. She holds a M.A. degree in Marriage, Family and Child Counseling from Western Seminary and a B.Sc. degree in Electrical Engineering and Computer Science from U.C. Berkeley. Her former careers include being a software engineer, development department manager, stay-at-home mom, counselor of kids and teens at public schools, and children's minister.

Winnis and her husband (now a pastor) have been married since 1975 after only three months of dating. They enjoy their son, daughter-in-law, and three grandchildren!

Winnis Chiang, M.A., LMFT

www.ParentingABC.com

925-806-8600

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